tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6661982028247268300.post4242780800850770177..comments2023-03-25T10:04:03.380-07:00Comments on The Urban Feminist: Emasculation?The Urban Feministhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00717164857752291219noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6661982028247268300.post-78279816490948327712009-05-05T17:22:00.000-07:002009-05-05T17:22:00.000-07:00I've discussed this before with people. I think th...I've discussed this before with people. I think the concept of Feminism, anti-feminism, misogyny, misandry...really these types of polarized conflicting mindsets, are a bad way to go. Societies have rules for polite interaction. They're there to keep us from killing each other. However, if you must pick a side of the fence, might I suggest Misanthropy. Let's just hate everyone. Then we can warmly thing of everyone else as being sub-human soulless animals there only for contempt and destruction, without having to make it about gender. That's so trite. Let's just accept that everyone is a self-obsessed ass. Then we can just get onto the merry work of destroying ourselves. After all, when no one's left alive, none of us will have to hear this incessant bickering and complaining from anyone else. And how much easier would that be?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6661982028247268300.post-40466481200725063092008-08-28T12:20:00.000-07:002008-08-28T12:20:00.000-07:00hi there! English is not my mother tongue but i wi...hi there! English is not my mother tongue but i will try to do my best.<BR/><BR/>I am writing an essay about stereotypes and identy and I founded this at random.<BR/><BR/>Personally, when I read about the rights women's history I start to cry because I feel so proud of being a woman ans so tiny when I think about what previous women did for me in the past.<BR/><BR/>If i go out with a man I Expect certain chivalrous behaviour, just because he is trying to conquer my heart. Unfortunately, we run out these guys.<BR/><BR/>There is too much tension in both sides: women and men. Men who feared to lost power and women who had to work too hard to destroy the obstacules that misogist men create.<BR/><BR/>However, there is tension everywhere one look at and everybody learn what they see, it is quite difficult to change a person, education is the solution, it would be nice to educate people in a proper way. The question is how, I'm terribly sorry for that, I don't have the answer.<BR/><BR/>I must say I spend most on my days at home reading, studying, I am not aware of the current situation, but I would like to participate in the change. Everybody have prejudices and preconceived concepts. If it is possible to change things one day, we should be proud.<BR/><BR/>I know for sure i'm not going to enjoy that day, but the future generations will do.<BR/><BR/>Thx for reading<BR/><BR/>kisses from SPainanuskahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15200195637620114501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6661982028247268300.post-78706172300317455812008-08-07T22:01:00.001-07:002008-08-07T22:01:00.001-07:00Dear Monobrow,I would have expected that by now we...Dear Monobrow,<BR/><BR/>I would have expected that by now we'd have all gotten past this ridiculous stereotype of men as "bastards" and "shits" who do nothing more than go about whoring, raping, drinking beer, and lording it over women. Where do you live, anyway? Idaho?<BR/><BR/>I'm a 45 year old single white male, and I don't know any men like that. Most of the ones I know are too busy working 80 hours a week, making a buck to take care of their families and please their wives, or, if single, pleasing their girlfriends.<BR/><BR/>Let's talk, then, instead, about a disturbing trend in the world of work today: women in power who are emasculating bitches.<BR/><BR/>You know who I'm talking about. The female boss, supervisor, or manager who abuses you verbally, gives you no credit for your good work (or worse, steals it), and ends up crafting clever lies about you so as to get you dismissed from your job.<BR/><BR/>I've lost two jobs this way, one as a clerk in a bookstore years ago while in my teens, and more recently as a public school teacher when a new principal came to the school I was working at (although I must say, in defense of women, the previous principal, a woman, was the epitome of professionalism).<BR/><BR/>I have NEVER been fired from any job in which a man was my supervisor. In fact, these where the only two jobs I've ever been fired from in my life.<BR/><BR/>I think Norman Mailer, the poster boy for macho and on the feminist top ten most wanted list, had it right in a Time magazine interview in 1991:<BR/><BR/>"I had a great many prejudices that have since dissolved. But what I still hate about the women's movement is their insistence upon male piety in relation to it. I don't like bending my knee and saying I'm sorry, mea culpa. I find now that women have achieved some power and recognition they are quite the equal of men in every stupidity and vice and misjudgment that we've exercised through history.<BR/>They're narrow-minded, power seeking, incapable of recognizing the joys of a good discussion. The women's movement is filled with tyrants, just as men's political movements are equally filled.<BR/>What I've come to discover are the negative sides, that women are no better than men. I used to think — this is sexism in a way, I'll grant it — that women were better than men. Now I realize no, they're not any better."<BR/><BR/>I'm fortunately dating a very independent and liberated woman who enjoys and admires my masculinity (I lift weights, swim, and practice tai chi and yoga) and write poetry and play classical guitar.<BR/><BR/>I find your blog extraordinarily out-dated, as well as your views of male and female roles. Honestly, this was the same talk I heard back in the 19070's as a teenager. Surely we can move with the times?<BR/><BR/>MandudeThe Phantom Ex-Educatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13882275437539492226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6661982028247268300.post-48272366294384844382008-03-22T20:55:00.000-07:002008-03-22T20:55:00.000-07:00I have wonderful female and male friends and busin...I have wonderful female and male friends and business associates because I have chosen them. The rest can f--k off! But I do have one amazing male friend (spiritual, kind, smart, athletic)--but has no luck with women and we ALL know why--he is "too feminine". All my female friends are with very warm wonderful men, but the men that we are with are masculine in their mannerisms, and that is what makes us feel "feminine" and drives us crazy in bed. What advice should I give to my emasculated friend who deserves the best?abcranehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15366964308255450820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6661982028247268300.post-11718586973031444512008-03-20T15:22:00.000-07:002008-03-20T15:22:00.000-07:00Men are strange. As it seems, everything you do ma...Men are strange. As it seems, everything you do makes them feel like "less of a man". . ..and I just don't get it. Maybe I'm just a heart broken girl. . . with too much time on my hands.Vakker Kvinnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08539305107789224558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6661982028247268300.post-2908276259906387402007-12-01T10:42:00.000-08:002007-12-01T10:42:00.000-08:00I've always had these words in my head but I never...I've always had these words in my head but I never could express it. Thank you so much for this post. I've added it to my list of 20 Posts All Women Should Read.<BR/>http://www.alldivamedia.com/blog/2007/12/01/20-posts-all-women-should-read/DJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09487048230167591130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6661982028247268300.post-16087977649831947562007-10-29T15:50:00.000-07:002007-10-29T15:50:00.000-07:00Miss Monobrow, I do know who you are talking about...Miss Monobrow, I do know who you are talking about, and I think women of her ilk basically just have a warped view of what feminism actually is - specifically that it's about pressurising women to live their lives in a certain way (ie going out to work and not having babies, or having babies and palming them off on a nanny whilst you go out to work) and that they don't want that lifestyle for themselves.<BR/><BR/>There's nothing wrong with an individual "staying at home, simpering and playing the little wifey and only being in the job until she gets married and knocked up, and can devote the rest of her life to lying on the bed with her legs spread and being a baby factory". That's fine. There is something very, VERY wrong with the above being expected or enforced. And there's something unbelievably self-centred about rejecting feminism entirely just because you happen personally to want to adopt a traditional gender role. Shouldn't that be a choice? Shouldn't women who don't want to make babies have the right to be taken seriously in the workplace? Agh!<BR/><BR/>On a final note, I think the chivalry thing is ridiculous and petty. It might be a bit silly expecting men to open doors for you just because they're male and you're female, but I don't really think an open door constitutes an "issue". It certainly doesn't constitute an issue big enough to reject an entire ideology that ultimately seriously benefits you. Given the choice between having to open my own doors and not being able to walk down the street without being harassed by sleazy men, opening a door doesn't seem an onerous task.The Urban Feministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00717164857752291219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6661982028247268300.post-20241516207152067842007-10-28T12:30:00.000-07:002007-10-28T12:30:00.000-07:00Hey there, randomly found your blog on Google. Ve...Hey there, randomly found your blog on Google. Veryyyyyyyyyyyyy interesting for me (25 yo Male). I figure I could learn a thing or two about how some women thnik ;)<BR/><BR/>Randy<BR/>(From Canada, where Randy is an actual name and does not mean horny)Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18441090652815664666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6661982028247268300.post-60013694732759041762007-10-26T20:38:00.000-07:002007-10-26T20:38:00.000-07:00This is why I think "choice feminism" is nonsense....This is why I think "choice feminism" is nonsense. Sure, everyone wants to make choices, but maybe you should consider how those choices will affect other women--possibly even your own daughter--down the line.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15058219643912780497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6661982028247268300.post-67939919297865960592007-10-26T02:08:00.000-07:002007-10-26T02:08:00.000-07:00There's something that's even more than women sayi...There's something that's even more than women saying "all men are bastards" and therebye perpetuating this myth that feminists are man-haters: women who actively discourage feminism.<BR/><BR/>There is a girl with whom I used to work (you can probably work out who) who, when jumping into a conversation a few of us were having about feminism, declared that she was "the complete opposite of a feminist".<BR/><BR/>The rest of us looked at each other, slightly disconcerted. Eh? She went on to say that she considered herself an anti-feminist because she still wants men to hold doors open for her, and give up their seats on the tube to her.<BR/><BR/>I explained that wishing that men were still chivalrous doesn't really make one an anti-feminist, but she added that she really does think that men should do the "grr argh I am man, I hunt meat, ug ug ug" role, while women should stay at home, simpering and playing the little wifey. She's only in the job until she gets married and knocked up, and can devote the rest of her life to lying on the bed with her legs spread and being a baby factory.<BR/><BR/>This made me angry. It's the sheer ignorance of these women that swan around saying that they "don't agree with feminism" that can be very damaging to women. As long as people hear that some women actively feel that their place is in the kitchen/bedroom, then the longer they're going to get away with not treating us as equals.<BR/><BR/>I (none too gently, I admit) challenged her on her statement, asking whether she thought it was important that women got the vote, or got equal pay, or were valued for their minds more than their wombs. She shut up after that.The Empresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13916843694357084902noreply@blogger.com